How I Handle "Fear of Flying"

Since I can remember, I have always been a nervous flyer. The day before I fly I become anxious and worried about my trip. My stomach becomes so jittery that I am unable to stay still and relax while on board a plane. It wasn’t until about a few years ago that I realized by nerves surrounding flying is a result of being afraid of heights. I experience the same uneasiness when I travel in cable cars, ferry’s wheels and any other machines that carry you several feet above the ground. However, airplane travel is the most nerve-wrecking for me.  I have tried numerous methods to help me relax, but have only found two that work.

1.     Sit next to the Window

I make sure that I always select a seat next to the window. I find that I am more nervous when I sit in the aisle or middle seat. I am aware of every single sound and movement made by the plane and if I am not able to look out the window and see that the plane is still flying normally, I freak out. When there is turbulence, I look out the window. When the engine’s sound changes I look out the window. I receive instant reassurance that everything is okay. Also I enjoy the beauty of the sky. Especially when the sun is setting or there are many clouds. The view is very therapeutic.

2.     Listen to fast-paced music

I am a music lover and I hardly go a day without listening to my favorite playlist. About two years ago, on a trip to Washington D.C to visit a friend, I thought to try listening to a song while the plane took-off. I searched through my Android phone (after putting it on flight mode) to find a song that had a “flight” or “soaring” mood. My song of choice ended up being “Ups and Downs” by Ryan Leslie. It was such a brilliant idea. Listening to the song’s chords made take-off, the part of flying where I am most nervous, way more exciting.  It reminds me of moments when I am watching a sad or emotional scene in a film and become very touched to the point of crying. Its usually the music in the background that brings out those feelings. It is a similar phenomenon with other activities and travel is one. Ever since that flight, I have made a habit of listening to music from take-off to landing and it has helped me cope with air travel tremendously. Recently on a trip to Cartagena, Colombia, I listened to “This is What You Came For” by Calvin Harris feat. Rihanna. It is a perfect fast-paced song for take-off.

I know that there are different degrees of flight phobia and that others may have worst anxiety than myself. I am fortunate in that my nerves do not prevent me from traveling. Sometimes, depending on the degree of your fear, it is better to seek professional help. As for me, the combination of good music and sky views are enough.